My mum Rene (Alice Irene Flitney née Harding) died in 1999. When my brother, sister and I went through her things we found an envelope full of old newspaper clippings and other bits and pieces. We looked through the papers and put the envelope away, but those yellowing pieces of paper keep whispering of half-forgotten times and places. Places like Butlers Cross, Stoke Mandeville, Aylesbury, West Wycombe, Little Kimble, Wendover, Ellesborough, Southcourt and Princes Risborough.

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Sunday, 4 September 2016

A postcard and a visit to Well Manor Farm

Buckingham old postcard

You might wonder why I'm sharing this rather ordinary looking postcard.  The views of Buckingham (The Square and Town Hall, the old jail, the church of St. Peter and St. Paul, an old house, the River Ouse) are perfectly nice but not especially interesting. It’s neither very old nor rare, but it is special in that it opens a very small window into the past.


The postcard sent in 1960 is addressed to my parents Mr & Mrs D. Flitney (Rene and Denis), Well Manor Farm, Hampshire (UK).  I’ve not been back to Well for many years but the last time I visited it looked very much as it always has. It is one of those timeless places, and it is somewhere that will be forever dear to my heart.

Auntie Jean sent the card after she and her husband Graham, and their two boys spent a day or two at Well. I was twelve at the time but to be perfectly honest I have no recollection of the visit. The card, however, did bring back memories. This is what Aunty Jean wrote; 

We arrived back soon after 9 last evening, the mileage done was 67, so I think we travelled on the route you gave us OK.

We may have not needed to go through Henley, but the scenery was gorgeous and well worth the extra 2 or 3 miles.

We stopped for a drink at Twyford in the square and then came straight on. 

The stay was enjoyed all round and we know the boys loved it. Colin stayed awake after the first half hour, but was soon down to it when put to bed. I think he was determined not to miss anything on the route. 

Seeing those words all these years later reminded me of my dad. He loved to talk mileages and always had an opinion on the best or quickest route to or from anywhere.  I have a clear picture of him fetching his map books from the car and running his finger along the route while adding up the miles in his head. 

Naturally, I have no memories of Jean and Graham stopping in the square at Twyford, but it did bring back memories of days out with mum and dad.  

Most journeys started out with a stop at a transport café. Few families used them, but dad loved them.  A good strong cup of tea and a fry up would set him up for the rest of the journey.  The prices were usually low, the staff friendly and lorry drivers were always happy to chat. In my memory, every single conversation was the same – the best route, the number of miles and more importantly any traffic problems. This was in the days before mobile phones and the Internet so the only way to find out about these things was by word of mouth.

After a day spent with relatives or at the sea, we would set off for home and sooner or later dad would mention needing to ‘stretch his legs’. This was the signal for mum and I to start looking out for a decent pub. Those that appeared grubby or had shoddy paintwork would be rejected out of hand.  Those with five or six cars in the car park were deemed too busy. Eventually, we would find something that looked ‘nice’ and dad would pull in.   If it was a warm evening, we would sit in the garden, but more often than not they went inside while I waited in the car. After a few minutes, one of them would return with a bag of crisps and a fizzy drink. This was long before the drink driving ban, and they would often be an hour or more. Once fed and watered, we would be underway again.

The only part of the day I didn’t enjoy was the ‘eating up’ of the sandwiches. These were the leftovers from lunch, by now soggy and truly horrible. Dad would munch his way through a couple, but it was more than I could stand so I would say goodnight and take myself off to bed.  NB My brother married when I was quite young as did my sister. These recollections are of the time after they left home, prior to that all three of us would be in the car.

I don't have any photographs of Jean and Graham, but this is one of me as I must have looked when they visited. A note on the back reads Bobbie and Blacky. I don't think Blacky was our cat, so I'm guessing he belonged to the family who owned The Chequers Inn. 

Barbara Flitney at Well, Long Sutton, Hampshire

The Chequers Inn is to my right (out of the picture). The building behind me is Mulberry Cottage once the home of Old Bell Ridges. I don't know Bell's actual name, although I assume it must have been Bella or Annabelle. I have two clear memories of her. The first is that most of the children in the village (including me) were a little afraid of her because on nights when the moon was full she would stand in her garden and scream. The second is of her showing mum a collection of beautiful old-fashioned Valentine’s cards the type made from material and lace. Other than that Old Bell Ridges was and will probably remain a mystery to me. I do wonder how she would feel if she knew the house she once lived in now has a price tag of more than one million pounds.  

August, 2016. For my birthday this year Terry offered to take me to London, Bath, Bristol or anywhere else of my choosing - I chose to go back to Well.

The Chequers Inn, Well, Hook, Hants
The Chequers Inn, Well, Hampshire in August 2016.
The Chequers Inn, Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hook, Hants
The Chequers 

Well Manor Farm Cottages, Flitney Family, Well,  Hampshire
Well Manor Cottages a pair of semi-detached cottages and the place I grew up. We lived in the one on the right of the photograph. Mum and dad were incredibly proud of the garden and spent hours working on it.  (With thanks to my sister Sue for the photo)

Well Manor Farm Cottages, Dutch Barn, Cowshed, 1960s, Flitney Family, Hook, Hampshire
Looking in the opposite direction with the dutch barn and cowshed in the distance.

The same pair of cottages in 2011 this was some time after our parents died. 

Well Manor Farm Cottages, gone but not forgotten, Nr Long Sutton Hampshire
Aug 2016 - can you spot the difference?

The house where we lived has been completely flattened, the other half of the pair still stands but our home has gone. The only thing left is a gate and a mark in the grass where the path used to be.

Well Manor Farm Cottages, Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire


Well Manor Farm, Well, Nr. Long Sutton, Hampshire
This photograph taken across the fields at the back of the farm might give you a clearer idea. Our house should be directly in line with the dead tree.  Most of the original farm buildings have also been knocked down and replaced.

 These buildings now stand where the dutch barn once stood. Progress? I guess so but I know which I prefer, although having said that most of the farm had fallen into disrepair in the intervening years. 

The back of the new barn.

Another of the new farm buildings

Much of the rest of the village looks almost exactly as it did...

Well, Lower Froyle, Crondall, Nr Basingstoke, Hampshire


Near The Chequers at Well, Hampshire
The cricket pitch used to be in the field beyond this fence, I have no idea why I felt it necessary to point that out!  I’m standing in front of one of my favourite trees and the one I used to climb at every opportunity.  As I've grown older, the tree has grown taller - I'm not sure I could climb it now, although I was tempted to try.

Well Manor Farm, Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire
The field where the cricket pitch used to be. 

The well at Well, Nr Long Sutton Hampshire
The well at Well 

The well at Well, Nr Long Sutton Hampshire

William Fullerton who died at Well Manor, August 25th, 1888. The Well at Well.
This well is a gift to the inhabitants of the hamlet from William Fullerton who died at Well Manor, August 25th, 1888.

Cottage at Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire
A family by the name of Biddlecombe lived here.  I believe Mr & Mrs Biddlecombe had a son and a daughter. The little girl and I used to play together until the awful day when she fell out of a tree and broke her collarbone. I wish I could remember her name – Janet perhaps?  She was a good two years younger than me so the day she fell I naturally got the blame.  I remember knocking on their front door the following day and her mother telling me exactly where to go!  That was the end of our friendship. I was seven at the time and have never forgotten the injustice of it all – although I did demonstrate how to hang upside down from a branch – so in hindsight it was entirely my fault – sorry Janet (if indeed that is your name).

Cottage at Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire
I can't remember the name of the family who lived here, but I do remember singing Christmas Carols outside their front door. My sister was responsible for our little band of singers. She had the best voice, and it was left to her to decide on the carols and who should sing what. She had a passion for singing descant, and it was down to the rest of us to follow along with the basic melody.  Unfortunately, the moment she started singing I would find myself joining in.  I just could not get it right no matter how often and how hard we practised. We must have looked (and sounded) a raggle, taggle bunch when we arrived at this particular door, and I don’t think we were very welcome.

 The following photographs are of the woods and fields at Well Manor Farm.  I’m afraid I was trespassing at this point (Terry had gone to park the car – so he is not implicated in this!) I could not leave without walking these familiar paths and as requests left on the new farm owner’s blog had gone unanswered I decided to risk a telling off. 

Well Manor Farm, Well, Hook, Hampshire

Well Manor Farm, Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire
Taking only pictures, leaving only footprints and a great big chunk of my heart

Well Manor Farm, Well, Hook, Hampshire

Well Manor Farm, Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire

Well Manor Farm, Well, Hook, Hampshire

Well Manor Farm, Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire

Woods at Well Manor Farm, Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire

Well Manor Farm, Well, Hook, Hampshire

Road sign Well, Nr Long Sutton, Hampshire
I started off by saying I’ve not been back to Well for many years and the last time I visited it looked very much as it always has. However, time has indeed wrought changes at Well Manor Farm. Happily, the woods and fields are virtually unchanged.

Stored at the bottom of a box for more than fifty years Auntie Jean's postcard took me on a journey through my memories and reminded me it was time to go home.


Wednesday, 24 June 2015

Postcards from my collection

I hope you enjoy this set of postcards sent from Charlie to Maudie in 1904. There is a previous post about Charlie and Maudie here. 

Dear Maudie, I'm sure this sweet set will please you. très bon! With love Charlie


Dear Maudie, only 7 weeks to Easter!!! It’s pouring with rain again and I’ve been playing all the funeral marches I’ve got to cheer me up. It seems like sacrilege to play anything more lively in Godalming. Metcalf has just started on an eight mile tramp through the mud, so we’re all happy. Adieu pour joyous! Charlie. 


Dearest Maudie, I was quite overwhelmed with gratitude to receive such a beautiful card from you this week. It’s too kind of you and I shall never forget it. (You don’t mind me mentioning that I had that one already, do you?) Easter is getting nearer and nearer. Doesn’t the tempus seem to fugit?  Metcalf went to a dance last week he can’t dance, so he wallflowered and talked scandal with all the other old women. With love, Charlie.


Dear Maudie, the C. M. will do very well, thank you. I haven’t quite decided yet what I shall send you when this set is finished. I’m not going out at all on Monday, as I’m sure to be in great demand. Who is the luckless wight you mean to fix? Love Charlie. 


Dear Maudie, only four weeks to Easter! I suppose it wasn't you who wrote to Metcalf on the 29th? He didn't have a chance of accepting, as he could not recognise the writing. Isn't the weather simply lovely? With Love Charlie. 


Dear Maudie, this is the last of this sweet set. How quickly the time does go, doesn't it? With love, Charlie.


The six cards featured here were sent to Maudie at her Brighton address, whilst the set in the previous post were sent to an address in Hove



 I have an earlier set sent in 1903 to addresses in Guildford and London.


The clues on the postcards proved too tempting to ignore, and a little online searching revealed the following;

Maude Alice (Maudie) Anscombe was born in Brighton, Sussex, England in 1884 daughter of Henry Anscombe and Alice Anscombe née Hacker. Henry and Alice also had a second daughter Gertrude Mary (Gertie) born three years after Maude. Sadly, Gertrude died a few months after her fifth birthday in 1892. I don’t know the cause of death, although it may be reasonable to assume it was influenza.  The first great flu pandemic to be widely recorded was the Russian flu of 1889–1893, which returned annually until 1901. In Great Britain, the winters of 1891 and 1892 were the worst. The epidemic was characterised by huge morbidity. In 1891, 125,000 died from influenza, and in 1892, there were 250,000 flu deaths in Great Britain. Brighton suffered with exceptional severity. 

When Gertie died the family were living at Belmont Villa, Prestonville Terrace, Brighton.  Henry was employed as the assistant manager at the Gas Works, Croydon, London. Which may explain the London address on one of the postcards. Is it possible the family had a London home and a home in the country?

1901 finds the family still living at Belmont Villa, Brighton. They now employ a servant (Mabel Whyborn born in Worthing, Sussex). Sometime between 1901 and 1911, they move to 2 Granville Road, Hove, Sussex. Maud is now 27, unemployed, unmarried and living at home with her parents. 

1915 sees an interesting development when a Miss Maude A Anscombe marries a John W Metcalf at Steyning in Sussex and in 1922 they have a child - John A Metcalf. (The registration of birth records his mother’s last name as Anscombe.)

Did Maude choose 'Metcalf' over Charlie?  It certainly looks that way.  

Maud died in Guildford, Surrey in 1971 and approximately 30 years later I purchased her postcards from an auction. There is obviously a lot more to this story, and I hope to delve further as time permits.

Do you have any thoughts or questions? I would love to hear from you.

This is my contribution to Sepia Saturday 285 : Postcards / Hotels / Buildings

Please pay a visit to Sepia Saturday for more postcards, hotels and buildings.





Source documents
Postcards as described above.
Census records 1891, 1901, 1911.
Birth, marriage, death and parish records.
East Sussex Family Database.
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